Happy Mother's Day 

This morning at church as we were singing the last song, I found myself getting a little emotional. I started to think about two beautiful women in my life that I was recently talking to about their experiences of hardship in Motherhood. I then started thinking about other friends and their struggles. I know so many women who have had miscarriages and women in my life struggling to get pregnant, and some that have recently had babies that needed extra time in the hospital . Most of these pains I have not personally gone through but I do know that Motherhood is not so cut and dry and that though this day is a joyous celebration for many, it can also be a hard day for those who have experienced loss, whether that be the loss of their own mother or the loss of a child or maybe not even a death of a loved one, but perhaps some kind of separation from someone you love, which is a pain I have experienced. Some people that haven't known me very long, may not know this about me, but when I was just 21 yrs old, I started to help raise a child that was not my own, but very quickly captured my heart and was the first person in my life to ever call me mom. She later became a big sister when I had Carly. I had two beautiful girls that I bought matching outfits for (even though they were almost 4 yrs apart) and two girls I gave baths to, cooked for, hugged, tucked in at night and loved with my whole heart. When Carly was only 18 months old, her dad and sister left. Carly's dad and I could not stay together and that was hard but what was so much harder was that he took her sister with him. I still got her on weekends and holidays and whenever I could and it was always hard to bring her home. Eventually, their dad met a wonderful woman that he ended up marrying. Today, I have a high amount of respect and admiration for Carly's stepmom, but it wasn't always that way. In the beginning of their marriage I saw less and less of Carly's big sister. I would ask to have her often and was mostly always told no. She was busy with Dance and friends and it got to be where I was no longer mom to her. Someone else was taking that role. Someone that could be with her every day. For awhile I felt like she was taken away from me. There were lots of tears, lots of struggles and many resentful feelings. God carried me so much during those difficult times. He reminded me that I was there during the years she needed me and I did the best I knew how. He showed me that this other woman in her life was a blessing, even though it took me awhile to see and realize that. Carly still has her sister in her life. I know they'll always be close and I am so grateful for that. I pray that now that she's an adult and graduating, that maybe my family and I will get to see more of her. We love and miss her so much and she will always have a piece of my heart. 

 Happy Mother's Day to all of you moms and an extra hug to those who struggle in any way on this day. God bless you all!

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13 NIV

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  1. UnknownMay 14, 2018 at 1:48 PM

    RIGHT THERE WITH YOU, SWEET DAUGHTER. SURE DO MISS THE "FIRST GRAND-DAUGHTER"! LOVE ALL OF OUR SWEETIES.

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